The relationship between a patient and their doctor is a special one. A doctor is the person you go to when you aren’t working properly. To admit to another person that you aren’t working as normal, and to accept them to look at, take pieces to test and provide trial solutions and repair theories, it is a big thing.
My belief is that most people avoid doctors, try to diagnose and treat themselves or wade through their ailments because they aren’t capable of being that honest. I think people don’t like to accept they aren’t immortal, that they need help, that they don’t know everything, can’t solve everything, or even control their own bodies and lives fully. Obviously there must be more to it than that, but I feel that perhaps this may be where most of the fear and mistrust in physicians comes from. Ideas like how can they know how to fix me, they know nothing about me; or it normally goes away after a week; and my favourite they’ll just give some drug and the symptoms will go away for a while, it’s not actually curing it.
Yes, some doctors can be hard to talk to, don’t seem to listen to you or may seem to be not treating you correctly. But the thing is there are actually a few doctors around. More than a few actually, I hear there are big buildings FULL of them in most cities, where they specialise in particular parts of the body and have even more knowledge.
There is a BIG backwards movement going on that happens everywhere in the world and yet is talked about very little. It appears that a lot of the ‘First World’ population of planet earth thinks they are ‘ahead’ medically. I’ve heard of Canadians questioning if it is safe to give birth in Australia. Malaysians questioning if Greece has blood testing facilities. Brazilians wondering if they need to flown out of New Zealand for treatment if they are in a skiing accident.
There are doctors all over the world and they learn basically all the same information. I say basically only because of research for different treatment techniques and because of restrictions of access in remote countries. Nevertheless, they should all be able to treat you or refer you to someone who can help.
My point is: you can pick whichever one you like. If you g to a doctor and they don’t treat you as you want, or give you an adequate range of options, or discuss illnesses with you in a way you understand without belittling you then go to another. You, as a consenting adult, and a functioning person in the human race, have a right to chose the people who are most privy to you when you are at your most vulnerable.
If you get a diagnosis you feel uncomfortable with, say so. If you want to know why they are prescribing certain medications then ask why you need it, what it does, how long you need it for, what the side-effects may be, what the long-term prospects of the illness may be and if there is any specialist to help you. I understand a lot of people go to doctors for types of skin irritation or a variation of cold or flu virus. But you never know what is going on in your body if you don’t ask. If you never ak then you won’t know later on when things started to go wrong, what normal is for you, or how comfortable you feel with them before you have to lie on the table and expose your privates. (I said you would be vulnerable and I meant it).
Needless to say, I LOVE my doctors and if I don’t feel comfortable with a new one on my first visit then I never return.